“The danger of motherhood – you relive your early self, through the eyes of your mother.” ~ Joyce Carol Oates, The Gravedigger’s Daughter
Belated Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there, to all the mothers-to-be, to all the mothers of angel babies, and to all mothers who are struggling with infertility – you are all amazing.
My mom is in the Philippines, so I called her Saturday evening to greet her. I wasn’t able to get through to her, but I did leave her a message on her phone. By tonight (Sunday evening), I still have not been able to reach her. It’s one of the many struggles of transatlantic communications – especially to a third-world country such as the Philippines. While they are advanced technologically in the bigger cities like Manila, many of the outer provinces still have spotty telephone and internet service. Unfortunately, the corruption in the government does not allow for a complete overhaul of the country’s infrastructure that is desperately needed. There are still many areas even that do not have running water.
Surprisingly, the Philippines was one of the richest countries in Asia following WWII. However, years of economic mismanagement and the corruption of the Ferdinand Marcos regime and martial law, led to the Philippines becoming one of the poorest in Asia. Further economic stagnation and decline continued during the years even after Marcos due to political instability. The country now largely survives on the money brought in by OFWs (overseas foreign workers), to the tune of approximately $31B/year.
My own mother’s day celebration was a bit of a disaster. G had promised to make me breakfast, but in typical tweeny fashion, she wasn’t paying full attention, and was instead focusing on a video on her phone which she had placed on top of the kitchen counter, and she dropped a whole carton of eggs on the floor. It took me nearly thirty minutes to fully clean up the gooey mess on the kitchen floor. By then, I had lost my appetite, so I made oatmeal for us instead.
I took the opportunity to turn it in a lesson: Don’t half-ass anything in life. Whatever you do, do it fully and with commitment.
Lessons learned. And, there’s always next year.